stay home or go on vacation?

Question

ok my husband was just deployed to kuwait, in the past year he really hasn't been home much at all with the week and month long training. he is on a 12 month tour. he was just home for a week for christmas and he is trying to get his R&R for Aug. 09 to be home for our birthdays and our anniversary. we have been together for 9 yrs we have three kids under the age of five. we are still very young ourselves and we have never really done anything together like a vacation or anything like that. i was wanting to plan a trip while he was home for his R&R but feel very guilty that the kids wouldn't get to spend as much time with him and or vice versa. so i was wondering if it would be best to just stay home and do things with the kids like the zoo or holiday world. Then just take a trip when he is home in november for the two of us. so i guess what im asking is do you think him and the kids should spend as much time together as possible or would it be ok for use to spend a weekend alone together?

Answer 1

As a father I would say it doesn't matter as long as the kids are involved. In other words, the trip to Hawaii should include the kids as a family vacation. If that can't be done, then stay home and do something as a family. I just know that if my wife planned a vacation for me without the kids when I haven't seen them for a year, I wouldn't go. The kids are just as important to me as my wife. If he is only home for a short while on R&R, you need to keep the family together, for his sake and the kids. Enjoy his stay! The kids can go to bed early.

Answer 2

your soldier/husband flew a long way to Kuwait. I congratulate your husband for serving this great country. your children are too young for the minimum 6 hour flight from Los Angeles alone, depending where you live is most likely longer and farhter. find a place within a 3-4 hour drive from where you live and find a place to picnic or stay at a decent motel. flying is stressful and can be nerve wracking with small children. just do the domestic side of the country first. family first and foremost, then vacation wont matter...the kids will enjoy dad within the first few days of dad being home. then they seldom hold attention long enough to care. but spend quality time together, long airplane flights are not quality time.

Answer 3

If I was him, I would want to stay home, instead of dealing with traveling. Also, your kids should really spend as much time with him as possible. Seriously. I know you need him too, but I bet the kids miss their Dad a lot.

Answer 4

you should stay home and spend the most time you can with him i bet he is sick of being on the road